Gender’s Troubled: Do You Realize Who Needs You to Say “Rape Culture” Instead of “Males' Rape Culture” and What is a “Rape Culture”, Anyway?

A Series on Male Parasitism (Supremacy) & Sex-Based Stereotypes

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Above are examples of responses from men who are angered that I use sex specificity. Please know that weaponized sex-neutrality ™️ is done by men of all political parties. It’s a bipartisan effort. These are some of the milder responses I get when I share a viewpoint as a woman. Male culture thinking will sometimes allow us to call out male parasitism, but only if we mince our words to fit his tunnel vision. Below is the post that I was commenting on.

As many are currently reacting to the evidence of rapist and pimp Jeffrey Epstein, and his fellow rapist johns/punters, there is this expected response of trying to say only certain demographics of males inflict violence on women and girls. This response is rooted in the same logic as the men in the collage below. People can hold onto illusions of absolution, safety, or control if they can lie and say there is a specific type of male who is a rapist, rape apologist, or rape celebrationist. When that happens, certain perpetrators are given a pass and certain victims are sacrificed and betrayed.

One frightening outcome of this illogical male culture thinking is that some have convinced themselves that it is only the “elite” European American men like Jeffrey Epstein and his fellow pimps and johns that form rapist gangs, or that more melanated women and girls, specifically of the African diaspora, were “saved by racism.” These conclusions are not only false, sexist, and racist, they are a danger to every single girl and woman out there who is being lied to, told that she is made up of parts, and that the intertwinement (intersection) of her sex, color, and other demographics, somehow shields her from being targeted. These are the dangers of shortform speculation and everyone being a pseudo-sociologist. Please don’t take my words harshly, but if you think this, if you’re spreading these ideas that no Black girls and women were targeted by Jeffrey Epstein and his fellow rapists, please kindly SHUT THE FUCK UP. Sister, I empathize that you don’t know what you don’t know, but your reactive ignorance makes you a threat. Sit back and reflect more. Everyone has a hypothesis, but testing it is slow and rigorous; not a thing to be done in an off-the-cuff post or video on social media. You are an unknowing victim of male-rot, and by spreading your half-baked ideas, you are doing the work of male parasitism, white male parasitism, black male parasitism, rich male parasitism, poor male parasitism, and all the oppressions you believe you are fighting against. Question why is it that you yearn to make a clever sound byte, a dark humor punchline, and who exactly is training you to think and communicate this way? This is not a time for self-flagellation, but a time to deal with the consequences of your sarcasm, a time to truly lean back and learn to observe and listen. No girl or woman, no matter her color, is ever shielded from males’ violence. This is what I need you to understand so that you can accept the gravity of the situation. You want to talk about intersectionality? Then start learning about the disproportionate impact that males’ commercialized rape has on racial minority, financially disenfranchised, and disabled women and girls. Learn about the roots of commercialized, racialized rape that was the foundation of enslavement of African, Latin American, and Native American women and girls during the 1600’s transatlantic rape trafficking ring. #StopMisinformation #StopArmchairSociology #StopArmchairPsychology #YesAllMenAndBoys

As American As...Male Rapists & Rape Apologists, Digital Collage, Preeti Pathak, 2025

Do you know your European American History? Do you know your World History? Do you know the role that the men in this collage play(ed) in inflicting Males’ Violence Against Women and Girls? Do you know about the thousands upon thousands of other men and boys, of all colors, creeds, and cultures, who inflict males’ violence against women and girls?

I see this reaction from some sisters, of denial or shock when they hear about the current male rapists who are filling the headlines, as if male rapists haven’t been filling our headlines and whisper networks for centuries.

I see this reaction of denial or shock about the welfare of “the children”, as if anti-female child exploitation isn’t the foundation of male-created societies. Sadly, it has been my dark sense of humor that gets me through these hypocrisies. The humor that is the fractured outgrowth of male culture thinking within me. But now, there are no jokes left to make that can numb me enough from men and boys violence against women and girls. The jokes are angering me, because I finally see they’re all on me. I see them for the maladaptive coping mechanism they have become. Men say “laugh so you don’t cry” but finally I’m releasing my tears. Finally I see the con-job pulled on me by men, saying, “big girls don’t cry”, “it doesn’t hurt that bad”, “be quiet”...

Do you know how many of us women and girls heard these very words from the man or boy who raped us?

Now, I’ve finally learned not to fear the water that runs from my eyes, because it forms the river of rage that men have attempted to dam-up. Only now, after forty plus years on this earth, I’m understanding why.

Please wake up sisters, and see that all males, no matter his level of power, directly and indirectly uphold and benefit from males’ violence against women and girls. And any male staying safe in his silence, denying, apologizing away, or celebrating males’ violence can’t give a shit about you or your children, even if he lies and tells you otherwise. Their actions, not their words, show that their supposed care only extends so far. Not all men are filled with hate, some are filled with denial, evasion, indifference. Maybe you were in denial about the breath of men’s anti-female violence, of males’ countless physical and emotional violations, of males’ sexualized physical violence, but many of us have been screaming about it, in the ways we know how. Radical, liberal, conservative, moderate, it doesn’t matter what labels we place on women and girls, we all have a piece of truth from his puzzle, and males drag us apart to keep us from putting the whole picture together. The males shudder at our tears because they don’t want us to feel. It’s men who started the myth that women and girls are “allowed” to feel their emotions. Let’s not feed his gaslighting to the next generation of daughters. Let’s not aid men in these goals of destroying women’s liberation, girls’ liberation: feminism. Let’s use our female culture thinking and push back on his manipulations and illogicality.

Let us feel that which we have been forced to muzzle, deny, or kill.

Let us say that it is men and boys who are harassing, beating, raping, pimping, and murdering us. We must sit with the unadulterated truth, putting aside males’ training of male-perpetrator-shielding and his threats of hurt feelings. You won’t save any child, if you can’t name males’ anti-female violence without any excuses or justifications.

Have you sat down and done the long, tedious, often traumatizing work of studying ALL of males’ raping and violating? Or are you busy researching through a lens of tunnel vision, only what your echo chamber accepts? Only what will trend and market well. Are you ready to see that ALL MEN and ALL SEX-BASED OPPRESSION (ALL GENDER), is how we got to where we are in the “land of the free and the home of the brave” and the world at large?

My collage is only the smallest of samplings of male rapists and their brethren. Think of the endless collages one would have to make to show them all. Don’t get stuck focusing on only the American piece of the pie, the rich piece of the pie, the white piece of the pie—men’s manufactured value-based hierarchies—otherwise once again you shield the male rapist and you sacrifice the woman or girl (or the man or boy) who was once his victim.

If you are smugly believing you have it all figured out, that you know all the answers and all the questions, you are just another fool wasting time. I was once there, a fool thinking I knew it all. Then I woke up enough to realize I will always have more to learn, things I don’t know, ways I am ignorant and buried in my own tunnel vision or trauma responses. I’ve learned that conviction is meaningless if it is rooted in confirmation-bias and if you refuse to question and admit where your thinking has faltered. It doesn’t matter that I saw the male-rapist created world at age three, because every single adult taught me that “this is just how it is” through their male-perpetrator-shielding and their tunnel vision. Do you know what it does to a girl when she first learns the manmade world doesn’t care, but men and women en masse pretend that it does?

If you’re quick to critique a sister as “irrational”, “extreme”, or “hateful”, but don’t seek first to understand how she got to where she is, you might be perpetuating male culture thinking. Your feminist analysis will remain flawed if you can’t let go of thinking through the lens of men. Do you find yourself frequently saying, “well, it’s complicated…”patriarchy hurts everybody”...”but, but, but, reverse sexism and reverse racism are real”…don’t you know there’s three sides to every story?” Start decolonizing male-rot and see the forest for the trees. If your anger and blame continues to be directed at your own female sex-class, if you conflate the sex-specificity of naming the male sex-class as the oppressing group with somehow being male-hating or ignoring male victims, you have been duped by male parasitism. You may become a danger to your sisters, unless you learn to reclaim yourself, remove the male-rot, and reach for the roots of honesty.

See the hypocrisy of being able to name one demographic of males or one type of gender ideology as harmful, as a rape culture, but refusing to name rape as the systematic actions of all demographics of males, men and boys, and that it is the very action of violating women and girls that men have manufactured into a “culture.” See how men use semantic and euphemistic coercion to deconstruct even the words women create to talk about males’ violence against us. Realize how little is free of the stains of male culture¹. Understand that if we want to name males’ anti-female violence as a system, as men’s rape culture, then we must specifically name the male perpetrators and female targets. It is the fear of forgetting to say, “not all males” and the rush to deny “yes all males” that is your capitulation to the individualistic, competitive, anti-female ruling class economic model of males. See that when you hide behind insulated terminology, you give the actions of violent males the cover they demand. See that it is logical fear that dictates your language, and admit that your logical fear is of the male sex-class.

All of men’s religions and belief systems were built explicitly to enforce woman-hating, girl-hating, and gender ideology. The “conservative” man constructs his tool called gender so he can tie sex-based stereotypes to material sex. The “liberal” man deconstructs sex so he can tie sex-based stereotypes to the conservative creation of gender. Then there are all the men who will never fall neatly into “conservative”, “liberal”, “moderate”, etc., and pick whichever construction works best in the moment. See how convoluted this supposed logic is? Is your fear of “losing your religion”, your “spirituality”, losing your fragile manmade belief system, standing in the way of you connecting all the dots and listening to ALL your sisters?

Yes. Yes I am that corny. You better believe it. Rock on sisters!

We cannot dismantle any form of males’ violence against women and girls if we don’t look at the roots of sex-based oppression and how gender is man’s tool of female dehumanization. I beg you sisters, stop trying to make males’ violence about “some other thing”, some metaphor, some comparison, some diagnosable illness, some decoupled system. Name him, name his male sex-class, name all the men and all the boys, and let us drag each and every perpetrator into the light of just punishment, where we are all awake to finally see males’ anti-female violence for what it is: males’ choice to violate on the basis of femaleness. And if you can’t, if you refuse, have the decency to admit to yourself that maybe, you’re too scared to face it. That maybe, you’re too scared to dissent in your echo chambers, so you mince your words. I can’t force you to serve your words up in full, unchopped, but I ask you to question who really is the harsh one. Don’t leave the rest of us who dissent to be called “extreme”, “hateful”, “mean.” Even though we too were terrified like everybody else, but we kept fucking going. So we could finally understand why men trained us that naming the male sex-class’ oppression of women and girls was The Greatest Sin™️². We kept going so we could finally stop sacrificing some sisters in order to make superficial gains in this manmade world of male-rot. Admit to yourself that men have been “complicating” the simple realities of his anti-female violence as his core manipulation. Admit to yourself that those who plainly name male’s actions of anti-female violence and parasitism are the opposite of “extreme” and that maybe it is in fact, the manmade manipulations that are hysterical?

Then think on exactly who and why that very word, hysterical–

of hystera,

of hysterikos,

of hystericus,

of hysteria,

of hystera,

of hysterectomy,

was created by men in the first place.

Bonus Content:

I contemplated leaving out these additional comments I received when I refused to be sex-neutral when discussing “rape culture”, because I try to balance how much I reference online comments due to the struggles of validating the authenticity of the commenters. But these comments illustrate some points so clearly, I figured I would include them. Please take these comments with a grain of salt, because they are unstable data points.

• I’m so glad one commenter pointed out that a man or boy’s sexual orientation doesn’t absolve his anti-female violence. This is the sad reality of male propaganda that attempts to gaslight women and girls into believing males’ anti-female violence is about “attraction”, “sexual desire”, or the bullshit notion of “gender identity”, instead of clearly admitting that males’ anti-female violence is about power and control violation.

• I’m so glad one commenter pointed out Mel B’s right to self-defense. If you watch the video, it is a depressing reminder of how when a woman or girl is being watched/filmed, she is coerced into downplaying her innate response to men or boys’ boundary violations. This increases if the woman or girl is a celebrity and will face mainstream media repercussions for her response. As much as we want to believe that women in the spotlight have more power, there are many ways in which they have less power because of their high-profile status. With the advent of smartphones, more women are under constant surveillance, meaning even those of us who are not high-profile, can face major repercussions if our response to males’ violence is filmed, and if it goes “viral.”

• One man “mykellmartian_8” perfectly illustrates the common tactic of males and their enablers to call stating facts “hateful”…we see this with straight men, gay men, bi men, men who pretend to be women, etc. It’s simply a gaslighting technique originating from DARVO (Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender).

• The man, mykellmartian_8, wasn’t able to coerce a response out of me, and unlike the other men, he needed to continue his harassment. He proceeded to go to my page, and comment on a post that shows my face, which is the first pinned post on my Instagram profile. He did the common gaslighting tactic of pretending to ask a genuine question to force an interaction (“What is men’s rape culture?”). But he knew this wouldn’t be enough to agitate a response, so instead he tried additional bullying.

• He went with the classic effemination tactic that was meant to rope in one of my followers (“don’t u mean hello sir?”). It’s important to call this form of harassment “effemination” and to notice how men who call themselves men and men who call themselves women both use this tactic against us. I’m assuming he hoped that either me or the other commenter would attempt to argue with him, realizing he was on a radical feminist woman’s page. I followed my usual protocol of documenting everything with screenshots, deleting the bullying comment, reporting the harasser, and blocking him from my profile. Instagram didn’t deliver any consequence based on my report. I knew they wouldn’t, but I still follow the channels of access I do have, so as to create a paper trail of my attempts for accountability by the platform moderators.

• I share these additional posts and commentary to show how so many of males’ violence tactics are the same, and not specific to a certain demographic or “type” of male. quite often we’re dealing with different sides of the same coin. What this man did is wrong and upsetting. Just because it’s something that happens to me often, and just because he’s an unverifiable online commenter, doesn’t mean the impact of his harassment is any less. These are the microaggressions that women and girls face on a daily basis. Whether bot or human male, a hostile environment is still created. And that is not only this individual man’s goal, but also the collective goal of all male-created social media apps. They’re always trying to terrorize us out of the town square.

• I only include this man’s image so other women are aware of him. I do not share this for any reader to denigrate him on the basis of his looks. That is a male anti-female violence response that I don’t condone. Unlike this male, I judge one’s actions, not their physicality.

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Were you expecting a clearcut definition of “rape culture?” If you were and feel disappointed, try reading the piece again, but this time break out of the male culture thinking that pushes us to think, speak, and write in restricting conciseness. “Conciseness” is a neutral writing tool, that can also be manipulated as a weapon against us.

I will provide more traditional definitions of rape culture in future posts, because I understand that definitions serve a purpose for the learner, particularly those new to these subject matters. But I’m actively rethinking so much of what I once named as “rape culture”, because the term has been propagandized to erase males’ anti-female violence as the root, and now learners are unaware that rape is an outgrowth, not the root, of males’ culture. I know this can be contradictory to a great deal of the manmade sociological research on Males’ Violence Against Women and Girls, and therefore confusing or upsetting to think about. Yet, I urge you to sit with any discomfort, journal about what comes up, and then review all of your own analysis to see what contradictions, if any, you notice.

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Men create and market words, slogans, campaigns that are meant to coerce you to follow male culture thinking. The construction of valued-based hierarchies and “sins” from Christianity are great examples of this.

Note: Take what’s useful from my analysis and leave the rest behind. My goal is consciousness-raising, not debate. If you feel triggered by my words, feel free to share. And checkout my About section to understand my boundaries around responding to comments. I deeply appreciate your comments and engagement, and I must balance it against my goals and needs as an artist and writer.